Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

My husband's niece is very very rude and makes mean comments and my husband and I think she should get in trouble or at least give us an appologie and my husbands brother says that what do you expect an 11yr old to say and honestly she has no right to say that my toddlers are more polite than. Her dad doesn't see anything wrong with the way she acts and she always comes over with her hair uncombed and ashy legs and clothes that look like they came out of the garbage, my husband acts more like her dad, always making me comb her hair and put lotion on her ashy legs and its sad for my hsband to see his niece look like that and her dad spends money on his dumb comp and other dumb things instead of his kids and they look poor and their also rude and dont say hi to us unless their told by us, should we still get them christmas gifts if they r very rude and mean to us.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

In my opinion, this little girl is screaming for attention. If she can't achieve attention by behaving, then she will try for attention by being bad.

It sounds pretty obvious by your description that she is getting zero attention at home.

I would suggest that perhaps you ask her out for a special day with her aunt (you). Take only her out. Have a lunch, buy her some clothes (let her choose if possible), and take her to get her hair done. If money is an issue, you can take her to the beauty college to have her hair done.

While you have her all to herself, explain to her how you feel. That you do not approve of the way she acts around your family, but instead of accusing her, explain it to her.

She is obviously envious of the attention and love you have in your family. Surely, there is enough to share with her.

Good luck to you and her.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

You need to tell your niece that you won't take any crap from her because you and your husband are adults and deserve WAY mroe respect that she is giving to you. If she doesn't just ignore her and that'll bug her so she'll start being nicer.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

i guess you should let her grow up before giving up. keep away is all i can think of.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

get a life, this is obviously fake

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

maybe talk to her and say that it rude to be rude lol or go like "u should be nicer if u want people to like u" something along that line. I understand ur concern but shes still a kid and shes probably taking examples from her dad so talk to them both and i wish u luck!!

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

You need to direct the girl and step in. Teach her that the things she says are rude and hurtful. Help her learn right from wrong. Step in as a loving but disciplinary parent. Talk to her father or get him some help.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

You should consider telling her father that if he doesn't do something to stop it she'll stop coming over. Not as to be mean to her but to teach both of them a lesson. It worked for some of my family maybe it will work for yours.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

Your niece is lacking in parenting from her own parents. You don't mention her mother. Is she out of the picture? Is your husband older than his brother?

If the brother is a single parent he may be over compensating by allowing her to do what she wants, but kids need boundaries and they need guidance. If parents and family do not provide it they will seek it elsewhere. I have worked with at-risk youth and I have seen this countless times.

Your niece's rude behavior is not acceptable and your brother-in-law should be put on notice that it will not be tolerated. Period. You cannot control what she does at home, but you can certainly set limitations for what she does at your house. You will probably find that she prefers your house to hers because you do set boundaries. She knows you care and that YOU are taking care of HER.

Her dad needs to grow up. That's the bottom line. His children are suffering because of his childishness. It's okay to step in when a child's welfare is at stake and you don't need to feel guilty or apologize for it. Take a stand.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

unfortunately your niece is a victim of poor role models. i would impart words of wisdom on them every chance i get and have compassion for them that they behave that way because that is what they have learned from their father, their role model. the only thing you can do is put into her brain words of wisdom and be kind to her, so that later in life she will have something inspiring to draw on. maybe spend more time with her. and when scolding or reprimanding, be stern, respectful, but straight forward. hopefully someting meaningful will stick. if not, she'll learn soon enough once she gets to be independent and can't make many friends. good luck.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

sit her down and tell her that whilst she's in your home her behavior will not be tolerated, and explain the rules to her. as for your husbands brother, there's nothing you can do, apart from tell he's out of order and should take better care of his kids.

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

they not gonna stop until they get older and get a mind of their own dont blame the kids blame the parents and take care of that small stuff it wont kill you they will remember you for that when they get older

Need some serious advise about our 11yr old niece please Help?

Well, I think that your husbands brother is wrong! Sure you would expect that of a 3 or 4 year old, but she should know better. Next time you see your niece, and she says something like that again you should sit her down and tell her; it is not nice to do that and she is not going to make any friends. Also you should tell her how that makes you feel, and ask her how would what she said make her feel. And if that doesn't work, punish her and say (not in a mean way) I told you, you shouldn't do that. This is what happens when you do.

Then you should talk to your husbands brother and tell him to pay a LOT MORE attention to his kids, and their personal appearance. Because if she doesn't know that she should brush her hair every day, obviously he needs to take some parenting classes, and be much more aggressive with his kids, not a lot, but enough for her to get the picture.

Yes, but don't get them a lot, and don't give them what they wanted, just something cheep. Unless they get better don't give anything good. Also if you don't give them anything then you'll be rude.