How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

I split w/ my ex a few weeks ago after tryin to make a go of our family for a second time. After being back together about 2 mos we realized it's not going to work, same problems all came back. I luv him so much though, this split has been easier on me bcuz I gave it my all this time. We have 3 kids together %26amp; that's the sad part. He's such an awful person at heart %26amp; I'm certainly positive he's not the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. Last nite he was out somewhere %26amp; I don't know where or with who. It's been botherin me all day cuz I luv him, how do I just let this awful feeling go?? I guess I have to remind myself of why we split right?? for ex. I asked him yesterday to get our son a hair cut this wknd since it's his weekend %26amp; he said I'll take him if you give me money to do it, can you believe that? it's his son %26amp; yet he expects me to do everything. I just took my son to get a hair cut myself since I was going to have to pay n e way. How do I just get over him already??

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

You sound like you already answered the question yourself. Make a list of all the positive and negative things about him. Then make a list of the positive and negative things that happen if you leave him. I bet you will really see that you'd be better off without him. I wish you all the best.

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

There is no quick fix, sorry. It will get easier day by day. The best part is that you realize he is a jerk and not right for you which should make it somewhat easier. I know you wish you could just change the bad parts of him and make it work, but you can't. Just stay busy and as the days roll on, you will think about him less and less.

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

You need to accept that the relationship is not good for you any more. You met for a reason, you have 3 children from the marriage and maybe that is the only good think that came of the marriage in the 1st place. Count your blessings and move on...remain in little contact and do something really special just for you! Keep your self esteem higher than normal in case he took a bit of that from you!

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

Stay positive and surround your self with people who will support your decision. Time will make you very happy with your decision and you will look back at this as the best thing you have ever done.

You will be lonely but get over it. Stay positive. Read about being optimistic and how it can change your life!!!!

I'll bet that you will discover that he was actually holding you back from being a better person by putting you down and telling you how worthless you are.

Good luck and when you hav a moment of doubt.......remember the kids and how much better it is for them.

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

seems you have enough reasons to get over him.

maybe finding someone that has a heart will help

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

Time will help you get over him. Don't fall in the trap of grieving someone who will and has treated you like dirt. Take you life back into your hands and live each day for you and the kids.

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

I'm sorry, did you say you love him? Did you also say he's such an awful person at heart?

Darling, get over him. Just don't think about him. Think about your children and your future. If your ex pays child support, than don't ask him to take your son to have a hair cut. Do it yourself (as you already did, but next time don't bring it up). However, if your ex doesn't pay child support, then you need to somebody from the legal department, I guess.

What I'm trying to say is that he does not deserve you. Find somebody who will love you and your children as much as you love him. Good luck.

P.S. your ex must be a really an awful person since he didn't take his son to the barber shop. (By the way, never say it to your children, because it makes them 50% awful).

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

It'll take awhile, but it's definitely doable. Everytime you feel a weakness about going back to him, remember every terrible thing he has done to you and/or the kids. Also keep in mind what a terrible role model he is for the kids. Get a divorce, some space between you and start your life anew before it's too late and you are too old.

How do I get completely over him even though I know it will never work between us??

Sorry to hear about this...He sounds like a selfish and immature man.

If you realize that HE WON'T change, then that will make it easier. Even if you think you love him, from what you wrote I'd say chances are you have a co-dependant relationship, and it's not really love. It sounds like a toxic relationship and it's not good either for you or for your kids.

It will take time, but it CAN be done. Loving someone is easy when they love you back...but if you can see that his actions say he doesn't love you or your kids enough, then it's time to bail out. Contact your family and close friends, and seek support. You will have to stay strong because your kids depend on you, and you cannot fall apart.

I wish you well and hope you can overcome this with as less damage and hurt as possible....Think of yourself now...and protect yourself and your kids. Seek counseling or therapy and start going to church, too. God will help you and guide you IF you ask Him from the bottom of your heart. ...

Good luck.