Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

I am a single mom of 2 kids (7years old and 4 3/4 month old). I am nurising and my bra is always popping open or I am opening up to nurse. The baby is awake more than my daughter was, so I am busier. Than the dog, and my daughter and the house needs to be clean cause I'm picky... I am happy. I adore my kids... but I am busy and my family doesn't help. I am NOT complaining, I am trying to explain how I feel totally non-sexy. I am busy and I do my makeup sometimes still, but even when I don't... guys still stare at me or are noticilbely not noticing me so I guess I am still pretty. But I don't feel it. My hair is not parted anymore. I dress casual. I don't know when I will ever find time for a sex again as I dont' have a man. I live in an isolated place, so I dont' dress up alot... I dont' know. I feel shabby! Just PLAIN. Is this normal after having a baby? I am not depressed, I am just plain. Milk machine, strech marks, extra wieght and to busy to feel sexy.

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

find a SIMPLE routine for yourself in the morning and at night. I would wash up, brush teeth, and moisturize before I passed out in bed. And each morning I would shower (got up before the baby if I had to) and get a little fixed up.....nothing extravagent. Just foundation, a tad of eyeliner in the outer corners only, and one coat of mascara. I did that every day so I felt really good. I would pull the front of my hair back rather than put it in a frumpy bun (which I felt like doing)I wore things I was comfortable in....cute stretchy pants that were slighly more stylish that sweats. T-shirts with favorite bands on them. I kept clean and dressed okay. Not dressed up at ALL, but in clothes I was not embarassed to be in.

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

I was shabby and sloppy before I got my wife pregnant ... no reason to change now .....

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

yes this is def. normal. it sounds like you need to have some alone time once in a while even though thats so diff. now that we have kids.. good luck!!

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

This too shall pass!! You will get your mojo back - give yourself time. Sexy is not hair and makeup - it starts in the brain, how you feel about yourself. Add the other stuff - the hair and makeup and clothes, when you can. But don't stress over it. We can not all be the mom who ran marathon 9 months after the baby was born! However - you do need to take time for yourself once in awhile, or you are going to burn out. Especially being a single mom. Take time to breathe. You can do this.

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

your last line just about sums it up for me too...

I just had my baby 11 days ago, and even though I know it is still early, I feel just that way. I have 2 other kids too ages 7 %26amp; 9 and I think that they explode when they come home from school. I have to clean up after them and every hour have to get the boobs out for another feeding... Mommy its what's for dinner... I barly have time to take a shower now. And then I look at my husband lying on the couch or sound asleep next to me at 4 am when I'm up AGAIN... I just want to hit him or yell can't you do something... I LOVE my kids soooo much , but I would love to be able to curl my hair again, or wear a size 10 again... So I think you are absolutly normal...

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

Yoa, hold on now. Lets take a deep breath, walk to a mirror and tell yourselve that you are beautiful. And then, sit down and MAKE a way for you to get back to your old self. Deep down in, lies that beauty of a women thats once was. You might be suffering from post pardom depression. Which is common amongst mothers who have just had a child. Which is treatable with doctors supervision. But I feel you dont need a doctor. Try and get a grandparent to watch the kids for a day or two. Call some friends and go have a little fun. But from here on out, you are to start changing yourself right now. What got you here, wont get you there. You make the choice, and your inner self will make the change. start telling yourself every day these things. make time to make yourself feel women again. Go out and buy some weights and start doing little workouts at home while your 4 month old sleeps or is in her play pin. This only takes thirty minutes a day. Go walking with her. Im hoping that your 7 year old goes to school. So you know that you have time. Its getting off your butt and doing. Forget about sex. When you start feeling good inside, then the outside will do the rest. There is nothing wrong with PLAIN. Like I sayed, start right now telling yourself that you are beautiful. Every morning that you get up, have goals set for yourself. And go get them. Aim high girl. And you better let me know how its going.

Have fun.

Normal to feel shabby and sloppy when you have a baby?

oh i know how you feel... before i got pregnant.. i wore make- up all the time.. my hair was always done ... clothes matched and ironed... i look great for the world... after my daughter.. i could care less about make-up .. i wear sweat pants... lucky if my socks match.. LOL... i am a stay at home mom.. so no one but the hubbie sees how i look.. but sometimes i pass myself in the mirror and am like holy crud what have i become!!!!! my daughter is now 14 months and i have gotten better.. i dont wear as much make up cause i am at home. but when we got out even with my daughter i try and look nice... things get better...

you need to ask you family for help.. and it seems like you need some one to talk to other then little people... is there anyone who you can talk to?