Thursday, October 8, 2009

Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers & sisters to say the man named on our birth certific

Is NOT our father because we're not light-skinned like him? I'm my mom's skin color. Light brown. Because I'm not high yellow/red (light-skinned) like them, they say the man named on our birth certificate (my mom's husband) is not me %26amp; my twin sister's father. %26amp; they keep rubbing it in our face how they're better than us %26amp; we're jealous of them because they have fine hair %26amp; light skin. Well, my hair is a little more like my dad's than my mom's, but I take after my mom's complexion. Her hair is EXTREMELY coarse %26amp; thick, while my dad's is fine, straight, %26amp; silky. My hair is loosely waved %26amp; silky.



They said my my mom used to prostitute %26amp; sleep around, %26amp; that she made 3 kids with her husband (the light-skinned ones), %26amp; the other 6 of us with random different men. Yet, her husband stayed with her for about 45 yrs. %26amp; when I questioned them about it, they got hostile %26amp; call me childish. Why do I have to be cursed, being a bastard %26amp; not knowing who my real father is?



Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers %26amp; sisters to say the man named on our birth certificate...?

Did you mother really sleep around, or is that something mean that your siblings have told you? I found out about my biological father when I was 19 and before that, my brothers teased me about being the Mailman's kid, because I looked so different - different nose, hair, etc. Turns out they were kind of right, but it still hurt to hear that as a child. Sometimes, a child will take features from their father, sometimes from their mother. Your siblings are being ignorant and quike frankly they sound somewhat racist. If they think they are better just because they are light-skinned, then they are falling prey to some pretty outdated, unacceptable social standards. Don't bother yourself with their ignorance and just know that you are just as good as they are, if not better, because you, at least, are not a racist!!



Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers %26amp; sisters to say the man named on our birth certificate...?

Genetics are a tricky thing. Most people don't look exactly like either of their parents; they look like a mix. And sometimes, recessive genes show up and you end up with traits that neither of your parents has. Usually kids don't have the same skin tones -- I'm the palest in my family, and my brother tans really well; my parents are both in between.



But basically, your brothers %26amp; sisters are being assholes and you should ignore them. If they won't let up on it, why bother hanging out with them?



Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers %26amp; sisters to say the man named on our birth certificate...?

If the guy is caring for you, feeding you, being there for you when needed, being positive and helpful.....then what further qualification does he need to be your dad?



It is possible to find your biological father (or should be).



Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers %26amp; sisters to say the man named on our birth certificate...?

just get a dna and you will know and then go from there. But let me tell you a little secret.. I came from a family of 7 kids and we are all different and our hair is different and our skin is different. and we are all from the same mom and dad. we are blonde , redheads and brunettes. so get over it, looks mean nothing..Maybe you got your genes from a great grandmother or grandfather. I think you should tell your family to educate themself before they something so stupid. I have know black children that looked white and they had two black parents. They need to go back to school and get an education.



Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers %26amp; sisters to say the man named on our birth certificate...?

blood types are more of a giveaway than looks. How would you like to be a B- in a family of 8 and everyone else is type O



Do you consider it ignorant for my brothers %26amp; sisters to say the man named on our birth certificate...?

Without a DNA test there is no way ANY of us can really be sure who our father is. If your mother's husband is in your life and has acted as your dad then HE is your father no matter what. If he is not in your life, then it doesn't really matter. Your sisters and brothers are NOT better than you; how do they know who their father it for sure. You are NOT a bastard; that is a horrible term to apply to anyone. We cannot help what circumstances we are born into.

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