I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right

My mom abused me some thirty years ago. She would berate me, and put me down constantly. There was episodes of hair pulling, smacking me in the face, and dragging me up the steps by my hair. Recently, she took her granddaughter who's 14 to the movies. The granddaughter back talked her (which teenagers do) and she pulled her hair in the movie theatre to correct her. This was done in the lobby in front of the 14 year old's friends. I found out about it and reported her to DSS. My Mother (the 14 year old's grandma) found out about my report and wants no further relationship with me whatsoever.

I feel overwhelmed and sad because I had hoped this would be a time for her to reach out and say sorry... or simply I need some help.

Most of my family is dysfunctional because of her treatment. I have no relationship with either one of my sisters. One sister is a drug addict who gave up 3 kids.. the other sister and I have no relationship nor would I want one.

Help? Advice?

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

You absolutely did make the right choice. I am 48 and have been abused by both parents my entire life -- verbally, physically, emotionally and sexually. I now have a daughter age 19 and I found out that my mother had been verbally and physically abusing her for several years. I also reported my mother and she wants no further relationship with me either. In fact, she took out a restraining order against me to keep me away from her -- how ironic!

I made several attempts throughout my life to reach out to my mother as well and it only made things worse for me.

I have had no contact with my mother for 2+ years now and they have been the happiest 2+ years of my life.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

It may be hard, but it sounds like you'll be much better off without contact with her.

One of my old friends had very similar issues with her parents (both were emotionally abusive). She saw her nephew and niece being abused in the same way, and she got really worried about them and their emotional stability.

It was one of the hardest things she ever had to do, but she eventually cut off contact with that part of her family. It took a few weeks to overcome that choice, but she felt SOOO much better after that time, and I think she's got a much better outlook because of it.

The decision really came down to her telling her mother (who was the worst offender) that she didn't like when she said or did certain things (and she named those off). Her mother apologized (as she always did), then the next time she saw her or talked to her, she repeated the behavior (as she always did). My friend knew that was a sign that she would never change and that she needed to cut off contact

If your mother is physically and/or emotionally abusive at all and she isn't willing/able to change her behavior, then cutting off contact is the only option she is leaving you with unless you want her to continue to abuse you and your daughter.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

Okay she should have not done it in front of her frineds but your daughter should have not talked back to her. Their is no tolerance for disrespectful kids...I would have smacked her too. U should have not called that abusing she did it once and for a reason...

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

I am very sorry for the sadness you must feel. I commend you for reporting her as it was something I am sure you had mixed feelings about.

It was the best decision as it allows her to see that she isn't fooling anyone about her drastically abusive ways. Maybe she is fooling herself.

I hope this has been an eyeopener for her and with time maybe she will come to grips with the fact she needs counciling.

I hope in the future she can try to repair the damage it has caused in your relationship. Best of luck, stand strong,and maybe it will all work out.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

Its a hard one...and sometimes its best to talk it out within a family before getting others involved after the first incident... but if she has always been this way, if she doesn't see anything wrong with her actions, she will always be this way. All you can do is pray about it at this point. Whats done is done and I just hope you can get the proper healing after all those years of abuse and move on. Take care

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

When CFS (Child %26amp; Family Services) was called on my mother-in-law (not by us - by someone who saw her smacking my daughter in the legs for not sitting quietly in a shopping cart) - it turned out to be a wakeup call for her. She actually improved her behavior afterwards.

The problem is, your mother now blames YOU for reporting her bad behavior. She isn't going to change. Your best bet is to mourn the loss of the relationship (and yes, mourning is the appropriate term) and then try to move on. If your mother refuses to deal with the problem, then you need to put that on HER, not yourself. Don't let her continue the emotional abuse she has heaped on you for years by making this about you.

While I know you were hoping for the best, you have to be a realist in these cases. The old Chinese Proverb applies : Don't expect a cat to bark.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

This is very serious. You are not alone my dear. You may need to seek some therapy from your past, because you are not over it yet. You let the LORD take care of your mom and you take care of you. My mom never hurt me before, she passed away in 1990. My sister had the same problem with drugs etc.... Reach out to friends and be proud of who you are. Do not let your fear overcome your faith. Your mom needs some guidance so she will not act this way. Maybe your mom is old fashioned and feels that she needed to do what she had to do at that moment. I will pray for you and your family.....

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

You did the right thing.

You nor your child need to be exposed to this toxic person. I'm sure you were trying to give your mother the benefit of the doubt by allowing her to spend time with your daughter. As we now know, ugly never changes.

Don't feel guilty about wanting to protect your child from the abuse you endured for years. If you need help dealing with the abuse you've suffered, please contact your local health professional. There is no shame in wanting to get rid of the ugly baggage you've carried, IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT!!

Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should you feel sorry for, or allow your mother any contact with you or your child. It's up to you to show your daughter the right path when it comes to dealing with people in all situations.

Good luck.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

You should have talked to both of them before actually reporting her. Maybe a threat would have scared her out of doing it again. And as difficult as it may be, in order for you to have a healthy life, you should distance yourself from her as much as possible.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

I feel you did the very best thing for the situation,

I will admit at first I wondered why you let her have your daughter after you admitted your mother was a abuser,

but once I thought about it I understand,

A part of you hoped with the years she may have changed, but as you did see she hasn't and probably never will,

I know it would be hard to turn in your own mother

but you have to look out for the safety of others when you know she is a abuser.

Stand your ground,

you have to protect your loved ones from abusers even if it is family.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

I do not condone this kind of behavior in private or public but if it was the only way to get the girl to change her attitude well maybe it is just her way. I think the minor stuff is over look able but at any rate by doing it you lost your relationship with your mother. Also now she will be known as a child abuser and should she have to defend herself in everything. If the DSS reported her to the police then she will be on file and open to a lot of abuse. Sometimes it is better to let the cards play out before acting. Once you put it out there there is no way of taking it back.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

Well, to me, it's so important for kids to know their grandparents. But if she is correcting your daughter by pulling hair, I would have done the same thing that you did. And I would be the one to not want a relationship with her. It seems to me that she has hurt you enough. And she does need help. NEVER at any time, no matter what you or your daughter did, do you deserve physical, hurtful punishment. Some people would say that they got spanked and they feel it did good, and they don't feel abused. But pulling hair and smacking in the face is in no way acceptable for a parent...EVER. You are better off and YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION. You don't want your daughter to go through the same things you went through and I don't blame you one bit. It's going to be hard, but stick to your instincts and protect your daughter. Not having a family is way better than having a dysfunctional family that mentally and physically abuses. At least you have each other and make sure to be close and do things together. Each other is all you have.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

Well, first off, she was totally in the wrong - no doubt about it. However, I would have addressed with her first before contacting DSS. You may have been subconsciously punishing her for her past actions with you and your siblings.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

First, I'm sorry for your pain. Second, you absolutely did the right thing. No child deserves to be abused, even if they back talk.

I get tired of hearing that family is everything. When you have a family that isn't there for you, there for themselves, and are dysfunctional, there is nothing wrong with escaping it. Sometimes the love of friends can be even better than family. Good luck and continue staying strong! :)

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

You did the right thing. Don't care what anyone says. You did the right thing in reporting her. I mean if your mother doesn't want to have a relationship with you then that's her problem. You should have reported your mother a long time ago.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

I have one question for you. If she never admitted wrong about hurting you, why in the world would you let her have unwatched access to your daughter?

My step-mother who also injured me NEVER had access to my children. She held my infant son for about 10 minutes when he came home from the hospital that was IT!

She never admitted her role in hurting me, she thought she was justified. She was not going to have the opportunity to damage my children.

What ELSE has your mother done, that you don't know about? The mind boggles.

Of course you were right to report her. She should have been reported 30 years ago! She has no business around kids.

Why would YOU want a relationship with her? You seem to feel guilty for protecting your children. You seem afraid to lose your mother's attention. Who cares? She lost her parent card when she mistreated you.

Develop friendships with normal people. Go to a club or church or something and meet nice people. Keep yourself and your children safe.

Good luck.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

You did the right thing.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

If you really think that the grandaughter was being abused, then you did the right thing in reporting it. Children's services will determine whether or not the actions endangered the child. However, regarding the relationship with your mother, make sure you communicate the reason you did what you did. Once you do that, the ball is in her court. We cannot change anyone, but ourselves. If she wants a relationship with you, she will come around.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

I'm glad you stepped up. I know you feel bad about your mom, though. I saw a situation where a woman kept sending her children with her mom--after knowing what she went through as a child---unfortunately the grandmother ended up really hurting one of the children. now there is so much pain that they ALL have to live with. you would have felt really bad if you hadn't reported this and something terrible had happened to the child later. god bless you.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

You did the right thing, no matter whether it was a smack or something worse it is still classed as abuse. The dss should help you alot. If you need support and advice this website might help www.survivorshope.co.nr

Your mother was in the wrong and should be punished for her actions.

I am an adult child who was abused by my mother. I reported her for abusing her granddaughter. Right choice?

good for you! it took a lot of guts to finally report your mother. most of us know that taking matters into our own hands doesn't usually work. I hope someday you will be able to mend the pain you are experiencing. God will carry you through! God bless

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鈥淐UT!鈥?Jason, the director cried.

15 year old Lily Evans and her two co-stars, Lila Trace and Dan Borski, sighed.

When Lily had got the main role in the new movie, Lookout, seven months ago, she would have never have dreamed it would be this hard. If she did no more than blink at the wrong time, this was no doubt that Jason would notice and make them start over.

鈥淕uys,鈥?Jason said in a disappointed tone, 鈥淲hen people buy tickets to see my movie, they are expecting it seem real, not like a bunch of kids acting it out poorly. Start from the top, and please make it good this time.

Lily, Dan and Lila exchanged a three-way eye roll before starting the scene over鈥?again.

鈥淎aaaaaand ACTION!鈥?

鈥淢arie, I鈥檓 sorry.鈥?Dan acted. 鈥淛ust listen to me-鈥?br>

鈥淣o!鈥?Lily screamed, forcing tears down her cheeks. 鈥淵ou have no idea how much you hurt me! Just- Just leave me alone.鈥?br>

She waited for the end of Lila鈥檚 line, for that was her cue to walk off set, but it never came.

鈥淢ike,鈥?she started, pretending to tell off Dan 鈥淵ou are such a-鈥?

Lila broke into a fit of giggles.

鈥淚鈥檓 sorry, I鈥檓 sorry,鈥?she apologized to Jason, trying not to laugh, 鈥淚t鈥檚 just-鈥?br>

Making it even worse, Lily and Dan started cracking up because of Lila鈥檚 sudden burst of giggles and the raged look on Jason鈥檚 face.

鈥淓NOUGH!鈥?Jason screamed over the laughter, 鈥淓veryone take 5.鈥?br>

Jason looked at the three stars still laughing uncontrollably and rephrased his statement.

鈥淢ake that 10.鈥?He sighed cradling his head in his hands.

Wiping there eyes, Lily, Dan, and Lila walk over to the food cart.

鈥淭hat was so funny.鈥?Lily giggled, grabbing a handful of skittles. 鈥淒id you see Jason鈥檚 face?鈥?br>

鈥淚 know,鈥?Lila laughed back. 鈥淗e has absolutely no sense of humor whatsoever.鈥?

鈥淏ut that鈥檚 why it鈥檚 so fun to get him mad,鈥?Dan agreed, taking a swig of Dr. Pepper, 鈥淩emember that time when we put a whoopee cushion on his director鈥檚 chair?鈥?

Lily laughed at the memory.

鈥淵eah, he was so mad, his face was priceless.鈥?Lila smiled, 鈥淕ood thing he never realized it was us.鈥?br>

鈥淛ust think about what he鈥檇 do if he did find out,鈥?Lily Pondered.

The three shuddered at the thought.

鈥淗ey,鈥?Dan said to Lily and Lila, 鈥淟ets go somewhere after work.鈥?br>

鈥淵eah like鈥hili鈥檚 or something?鈥?Lila suggested.

鈥淚f we survived,鈥?Lily rolled her eyes, as Jason yelled for them to get on set.

Dan smiled.

She looked into his baby blue eyes. Every time Lily did she found a scene of two people together. The girl had curly red and bright green eyes as Lily did. Like Dan, the tall boy had jet black hair and blue eyes. This time, the girl was being given a piggyback by the boy, in a calm and serene field of flowers. The girl was laughing as she was put down by the boy. She seemed so carefree, happy and safe as the boy put his hands with hers. He tucked her hair behind her ear. There lips meet. Lily smiled.

鈥淯h, Lily?鈥?Dan laughed as he waved his hands in front of her face, 鈥淎re you there?鈥?br>

She was suddenly thrown out of the field of flowers and into the studio.

鈥淥h sorry, just thinking,鈥?Lily鈥檚 face grew hot as she twisted her ____ ring as an excuse not to look up. How long had she been standing there with that blank, goofy grin on her face? That was what the problem about staring at Dan鈥檚 eyes. They filled her with a warm feeling as she did, but after, she ended up feeling like an idiot. But they were so tempting to look at鈥?

鈥淲rong. You where doing something, but you defiantly weren鈥檛 thinking.鈥?he said imitating her face, putting on a dumb grin, and Lila laughed.

She winced. Had she really looked that stupid?

鈥淪hut up.鈥?Lily said half annoyed-half amused. Dan had a way with words. As a result, things that he did or said wouldn鈥檛 have been as funny if someone else had.

鈥淎nyway,鈥?he said changing subjects, 鈥淕uys, meet me at my car at around 6. Don鈥檛 worry you鈥檒l have plenty of time to do you hair, Lila,鈥?he added.

Lily laughed, because everyone who knew Lila, knew she took forever to do her hair. For Lily, it took about 5 minutes and Lila didn鈥檛 know how she did it.

鈥淏ut I don鈥檛 understand how it looks so good! You don鈥檛 do anything with it!鈥?she always said after they got out of the dressing room after work.

鈥淲ell anyway,鈥?Dan said, 鈥淟et鈥檚 get going, before Jason kills us.鈥?br>

鈥淥ne sec,鈥?Lila said, 鈥淵ou go. I need to ask Lily something.鈥?br>

Once Dan was out of sight, Lila said in a sing-song voice, 鈥淟ooks like someone has a crush on Dan Borski!鈥?

鈥淚 do not!鈥?Lily lied, hoping she sound convincing, 鈥淗e鈥檚 just a friend. You know that.鈥?br>

鈥淥kaaaayy鈥?Lila said once again in her sing-song voice, obviously not believing her.

They walked over to the set, and Lily couldn鈥檛 help but to think of her conversation with Lila.

鈥淟ooks like someone has a crush on Dan Borski!鈥?

鈥淚 do not!鈥?

But that wasn鈥檛 the truth. Not even close.

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It needs a lot of work. First off, There means over there. Their is the word you want when you are using the possessive. You need a lot of work with sentence structure, punctuation, spelling et al. I give this about a 4. Add 1 or 2 if you fix it up. Pax - C

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i like it it's bout an 8 but only suggestion is that u change either lily or lila name cuz there too close and it might confuse readers

My EARS are just so FLOPPY and HUGE I just wanna CHOP THEM OFF!!?

Ever since I was around 6 years old I was made fun of my appearance- small eyes, weird nose, mishappen lips, big head...

but the worst part about me are my ears. I have these floppy, rectangular, ENORMOUS ears (about 3 1/2 inches long) that get in the way of brushing my hair. Even when I let my hair grow long, they create these lumps on the sides of my head. I've been wearing a headband ever since 1st grade because so many kids made fun of me.

My ears are just so frusterating. My "prominent" features have done nothing but hurt the sensitive person inside. Don't even bother saying they give me character, because my looks havn't attracted any friends in my life.

What should I do? I'm think of surgery, but I'm afraid that option may be too expensive.

My EARS are just so FLOPPY and HUGE I just wanna CHOP THEM OFF!!?

They are yours...enjoy

My EARS are just so FLOPPY and HUGE I just wanna CHOP THEM OFF!!?

Don't pull a Van Gogh, certainly.

You should be happy that all you have in life to worry about is your ears, and that you're not suffering from a chronic illness.

But yes, I am bitter, and I can see how your ears would bother you.

If you really care that much, save up money to have your ears pinned back.

I wish you luck. And I am sorry that people are so superficial and your life has been so hard for you.

Still, count your blessings.

My EARS are just so FLOPPY and HUGE I just wanna CHOP THEM OFF!!?

check out the surgical option, it probably isn't as expensive as you think and maybe they have a layaway plan or financing. cosmetic surgeons are wonderful when it comes to making you feel good about yourself and they work with almost anyone. Consider working for one, after o year they may do it for next to nothing. My wife's friend worked in the office pool for a cosmetic surgery group and they gave her a tummy tuck and breast enlargement for about $600 after about a year of working there.

My EARS are just so FLOPPY and HUGE I just wanna CHOP THEM OFF!!?

The surgery to correct your problem is one of the most low cost plastic procedures there is. It is a very simple operation with no risk at all. I recommend you check out http://www.surgeryabroadguide.com for more details! You'll be able to finally solve your problem for good!

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on

We have lice again !!! My sister %26amp; her kids -%26amp; I have been dealing with this since MAY !!! We've done everything - Lice Shampoo, Nit picking with the nit comb- everyday !!!

We washed everything in the house -several times including the sofa covers - all in HOT water

We threw away some stuff -like stuffed animals

We vacumed the house -vacumed the car

Washed all the baby's stuff like the carseat pad - the walker liner - everything you can think of

We even used alternative home remedies -like rinsing our hair in vinegar %26amp; other things

We first got it in May then it was gone -it came back in July then it was gone again %26amp; now is back in September !!! WTH !!!

I did a search %26amp; there are products out there that claim to melt the glue that holds the nits onto the hair shaft -but they are expensive

Is there anything out there that will do that but isn't expensive

%26amp; what about that magnetic Lice killer Rombi Lice Comb ?? Does it work ?? PLEASE HELP !! SO FRUSTERATED - IN TEARS !!!

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

PLEASE READ THIS FIRST BEFORE YOU TRY ANYTHING ELSE. RECENTLY A PHYSICIAN IN THE UNITED STATES WAS PROFESSIONALLY OSTRACIZED BECAUSE HE WAS SELLING A SPECIAL REMEDY FOR HEAD LICE. THE PRODUCT WHICH HE DISTRIBUTED FROM HIS OFFICE WAS HIGHLY EFFECTIVE. HE TOLD THE MOTHERS TO PUT IT ON THE HEADS AND LET IT DRY, THEN WASH IT OUT. WHY WAS HE OSTRACIZED? BECAUSE IT TURNS OUT THE PRODUCT WAS SIMPLE CETAPHIL CLEANSING LOTION AND HE HAD REFUSED TO REVEAL THE FORMULA. IT IS CHEAP, NONTOXIC AND IT WORKS. THE PROBLEM WITH YOUR LITTLE EPIDEMIC IS THAT YOU NEVER GOT RID OF THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOUR CHILDREN ARE PROBABLY PICKING THEM UP AT SCHOOL EVEN IF ONLY ONE CHILD GOES TO SCHOOL. GO TO SCHOOL AND DEMAND THAT THE NURSE INSPECT EVERY CHILD. YOU WILL FIND CHILDREN SO LOUSED UP THAT THEIR HAIR IS STIFF. THEIR PARENTS ARE TOO BUSY TO NOTICE THEIR CHILDREN ARE SUFFERING. IN ORDER TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR FAMILY YOU MUST TAKE CARE OF ALL OF THE OTHER CHILDREN IN YOUR CHILDREN'S ENVIRONMENT. BELIEVE ME, I DID THIS!!! I WENT TO THE SCHOOL AND INSPECTED THE CHILDREN MYSELF. THE UPPER CLASS AREA SCHOOL WAS A SEA OF LICE. AFTER THE EXPOSURE AND SUBSEQUENT HUMILIATION OF ALL THE GOOD FAMILIES, INCLUDING THE RABBI'S DAUGHTERS MY CHILDREN NEVER HAD ANOTHER OUTBREAK!!!

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

Maybe its not your house they are coming from. If you are doing all of these things then someone else is bringing it into your home or you are getting it from some one elses home or even at work. You can actually pick lice up anywhere. Even a movie theater from the seat or head rest. Think about what you are doing outside your home to be bringing it back in each time. GOOD LUCK.

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

Congratulations....why don you put some kerosene up your hair n light it up???

Banish the a*s h**es to hell!!

Okay I'm sorry...Since you said that nothing is working ill tell you one thing i am from India and this is a simple Ayurvedic technique.

Do you know of a medicinal plant called tulsi? yeah holy basil. Its medical powers are immense.

Pick its leaves and keep it within your hair while you sleep at night. Its very effective at killing its eggs. And good for hair as well.

And if you don mind bob your hair short and go for the old comb technique. Nothing is a effective as that.

I'm a guy and never dealt with these things seriously. So im helpless in finding out where these things are comin frm. But i think rachel is quite right.

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

Maybe it is not getting rid of the lice that is your problem - I mean, obviously you are getting rid of them but they keep coming back - maybe you should try avioding close contact with anyone you suspect to have lice or any animals.....

If it carries on though I would consult a doctor..

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

Shave or buzz cut. I'm serious. It works. Our kindergarten was infested by lice at one point. This was the only solution that finally worked. Yeah, other kids still had them, but when lice have nothing to hold on to - they don't go to your house anymore.

Run every piece of fabric through dry cleaners or thrugh hot dryer.

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

You are probably getting the lice from her kids. Adults who aren't around kids much rarely get lice.

The best thing you can do is to cut the kids hair quite short or else put it in a bun or braid. Never let them wear their hair down to school. Kids are very closely involved with each other physically during playing and its very easy for them to continue catching it.

It sounds like you are getting rid of the lice ok, but they keep coming back. If you can talk to the kids about safety habits on how not to catch lice (no brush /comb sharing, ascessories in hair, touching anyones hair, washing hands frequently) and do something with their hair as mentioned above, it should help the problem.

Keep things clean, including the house at all times and it will prevent more lice eggs from hatching and getting on you.

OK HERE IS AND ADDED DETAIL: I had lice when i was teaching school, and the lice were resistant to the kind at the drug store so i had to buy a dr. prescription for Ovide sollution. They were gone after that for good. Previously i tried Nix 2 times and they were still alive!

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

Baby Oil will keep you from getting it again once you get rid of it, leave it in your hair you will look funny but until you are rid of them for good that will help, because they cant stick to anything oily!!!

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

Bummer. A nurse once told me that blow drying hair kills the critters. The heat does it. Good luck.

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

buy pet monkeys ahehehe...they're very good at picking lice and nits...an hr/day session eradicates lice in no time...

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

my question to you is where did you and your sis get the lice from in the first place? if your kids were around kids with lice and those kids were never treated and your kids continue to hang around the kids with lice, you will never get rid of it till the other kids are treated too. find out who your kids hang with and contact thier parents or forbid your kids to hang with the kids with lice because you will never get rid of it until you confront the reason your family got infected in the first place

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

My daughter had lice for just about two solid years!!!! I know you said you've cleaned your house and what not, but you have to keep doing it like every day!! So i reccomend making the job easier on your self, like getting plastic, matress and pillow covers to go under the sheets and pillow cases, that way you don't have to vaccume the matresses everyday, you can just wash the sheets. Take ALL the stuffed animals, dolls with hair, etc, and put them into trashbags, and tie them shut and put them in an out of the way place like the garage, ahd keep them up for at least three weeks. you might consider cutting your childs hair so that it doesn't take quite so long to comb through, but do continue to do that on a daily basis. and i used olive oil to soak her hair in with a shower cap on it for an hour,,,,,it worked for me, just don't get discouraged, i know it's hard not to but you will get through it it will just take some time!!!!

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

try a lot of baby oil. drench your hair in it. it will kill the live ones,but you will still have to pick out the eggs. Did you wash everything in clorox? If your doing all you have said, your doing the right things. Then the problem might be someone your around thats not. maybe someone the kids sit next to at school, a coworker? ask around or keep your ears open see if anyone else is having trouble with it. Good luck with it. Been there its tough.

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

put olive oil or other cooking oil in the hair, wrap it up with platic wrap and leave it on over night, then wash your hair.

A gal that I know who works at a shelter says that they do this to those who come in with lice and it works.

OMG !!! Not again !!! We have lice again !! Have tried everything ! What will melt the glue thats on the nits?

My kids had lice last year. I know how awful it is!

I was told that when you wash thier hair, shampoo then conditioner, but leave the conditioner in and use a nit comb to brush through the hair. I did this every night til all the nits and eggs were gone. After that I only use shampoo and conditioner on the kids hair that contains TEA TREE this is something that the lice don't like. Up to now it has worked and we haven't had a reoccurence.

Also make sure that when kids go to school, if they are girls that they aren't doing their friends hair and swopping bobbles and stuff like that. I hope this helps, Good Luck!!

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

My wife is half Irish, her father's family members are 99% red heads with green eyes and freckles, the whole works!

My wife takes after her mother in the look departments will brown hair and brown eyes. (Thank God)

I have brown hair and brown eyes too with no Irish blood. (I am French)

What are the chances our children will look like her Irish family?

Yeah, it sounds horrible, but we don't want our kids to be red heads AKA Gingers.

Should I maybe expect a little red head in our family?

Thanks!

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

Hey thats not kool .. whats wrong with Reds ????????????????????????????????????????...

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Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

hehe !!

An thats Mrs. Big Red to you :P !!! Report It

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

I'd say the likelihood of ending up with a redhead are quite slim....... but not impossible

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

From what I remember learning in school it is 25%.

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

Being a red head is one of the strongest gene traits. More than likely it would happen.

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

you have a very good chance of one of your children being red heads. both my sisters have red hair, yet neither of my parents do. if you are basing your decision to have children on the color of their potential hair color, then perhaps you shouldn't be raising them in the first place.

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

If there are red haired people in your family. There are chances you will have red haired children. I don't know the percentage. What is wrong with having red heads?

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

hahaha. Watching South Park have we? There is always the chance of a red head if someone in the family is. My grandparents on my moms side were both brown hair and brown eyes and my mom took after her grandfather who has the red hair, green eyes and freckles. I took after my father with dark hair and blue eyes, and my daughther took after her father with blonde hair and blue eyes. I am due with my second and wonder if this one will be a red head. I actually like red hair though and would love it.

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

There is a 25% chance that your children will have red hair....Because you both share the dark haired gene, the chances of your child having darker hair is the most likely. For example, everyone in my family is blond, except for me and my mother....We have dark hair. Everyone in my husbands family have blond hair, including him. We have a 2 year old son, with surprise surprise blond hair. Since my husband shared the blond gene, the chances were very likely....Even though dark hair is the more dominant

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

It all depends on your wife. If she is a carrier of a red headed gene, then the chances that you will have red headed children are 1 in 4. But, since she looks like her mother, those genes might be more dominant coupled with your genes.

Bottom line is...who knows. :) There's a chance I suppose!

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

Wow! As a proud red head I sure hope not since you are so hostile on the subject of us "Gingers". If your wife has one parent that is a red head then she definitely has at least one gene for red hair. If you have at least one gene for red hair then there is a chance. It doesn't matter that you are are of French descent and how many non-red heads you have in your family. It only takes one hidden, lurking gene for red hair to match up with her hidden gene for red hair to get that red headed baby.

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

you need to think about the heritage

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

Be expecting red heads!

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

My mother and my grandmother were both PURE red heads with BLUE eyes.. ~ Irish too! They were covered in freckles...my mother had 3 of us and only I had red HIGHLIGHTS..NOT RED hair...just highlights of it...NOW..I have 4 children...my oldest daughter, has blue eyes, strawberry blonde hair (highlights of red!) and she has the VERY fair irish skin..burns easily! My oldest son, has dark hair and dark eyes(looks tan all year round..doesn't burn!)! Fast forward 9 years..

I had my 2nd son, and he's A FULL HEADED RED HEAD!! BUT when he was born...one loneyly little freckle on his butt! Now across the bridge of his nose and cheeks..he's covered in freckles...and he's got the blue BLUE eyes..and burns easily! Now, my last son...has blonde hair and hazel eyes~ and tans nicely..so it's a possiblility that you MIGHT end up with a red head...BUT watch their tempers!!!

Serious question: What are the chances my children will be red heads?

there is a possibility but if both you and your wife have brown hair chances are your children will too. what's so bad about redhair anyway??

What do you think of a man who......?

Would never marry me after 14 years together and 2 children.

Broke up with me News Years Eve, after we went out and had a good time.

This is not the first time that he has left, and during that time apart he was seeing someone else.

He went back to her.

She took him back after he had just left his family.

He dumped her to come back to me a year ago.

He is 41.

He moved in with his mother.

He left me because he said that he was just not into me anymore, because I gained 20 pounds.

He said the family life is not what he wants

He said the womans house he is with now is quite, because there are no animals or kids.

If his kids act up he can't handle it, it makes him to nervous.

He said that he always wanted a blond woman, I have auburn hair.

He whitens his teeth everyday

We had family portraits painted, he would not participate because he did not want to see himself as aging.

He makes decions that effect others also, and expects them to deal with it. Not caring who he hurts.

What do you think of a man who......?

Read up on Narcissism, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He fits the bill 100%.

What do you think of a man who......?

Sounds wonderful. Come on, you know the answer to this one yourself.

What do you think of a man who......?

the real question should be..'what do u think of a women who'....allowes a man to treat her this way...

ANSWER is not much! u should never have taken his butt back when he left u and ur family to begin with!!!

i wouldnt give him the pleasure of taking up one once of my thought! get over him!!! now

What do you think of a man who......?

He does not seem like he has been a very good man to you or your children.... actually he seems like a jerk! you deserve someone better than that! and so do your children!

good luck!

What do you think of a man who......?

sounds like you lucked out. make sure that you do not fall for his BS again.

you can find a new man (if you want one) but even being alone is better than being with a guy like that

What do you think of a man who......?

He leaves and finds someone else because you two aren't married. You made the mistake of living with him, and having kids with him with no commitment. I suggest you start packing your bags, and raise your kids and then find another boyfriend. It's not right what he did, but there was no commitment there. You were not a "family" or else he would have participated in those portraits and asked for your hand in marriage. Move on, you'll never have a marriage with him anyways.

What do you think of a man who......?

Put him in the trash bin and move on. You deserve someone who will cherish you no matter WHAT the circumstances are. There are men out there who would love to have what he carelessly threw away!

What do you think of a man who......?

aaaww the old double life story! Well he's going to keep playing that game. And I might suggest you STOP! your the one left with all the responsibility it seems. You need to stop playing his game. He obviously doens't want just you. And right now he's getting it all. You and the OTHER WOMEN! He comes back to you when ever she doesn't want him. Stop doing that to your self and your kids. He's such a child. Didn't his parents teach him YOU CAN'T HAVE EVERY THING? boy some kids are just spoiled rotten. Let him live with mommy. She can take care of him, after all she did raise him. You just take your self to the lawyers office and draw up those nice little papers for child support. AND please take good care of your kids. They will need a strong person in their life. Obviously daddy was way to busy for them.

And DON'T MARRY HIM! it wont change his problems it will only create a much worse situation. People don't change because they get married.

What do you think of a man who......?

Definetely he dont love you. Why you have to wait for him again this time. Please do something great for yourself. Be with someone that appreciate you even if you put on weight double than 20 pound. Love aint just sex please. Love is something so expensive to describe. Love someone that love you, not someone you love. They wont love you back so for what you keep staying with this kinda person. Wakeup and look around you. Im really pity on you. My dear. Please be yourself for once.

What do you think of a man who......?

Snap out of it. You DO know the answer to this question. Get control of your life and start your pursuit for true happiness with out the mind-games this guy has been playing with you for 14 years!!

What do you think of a man who......?

What do I think??? After living with my husband for 2 years, having a 4 year old daughter and another on the way...I told him that if he did not marry me I would only be meeting him at the door on the weekends when he came to pick up his kids for visitation...(child support sucks) and I told him that if he chose not to do right by me and our kids he didnt owe me a thing except the freedom to raise my children and show them true happiness. We have been married for 5 1/2 years, he says it was the best ultimatum he had ever been given. You have to be independant of yourself...especially for your children. You want them to grow up strong and having a mate is only a bonus in life, not a neccesity. He is the one who is so wrapped up in himself the important things dont matter. They will though, someday, and when your kids are old enough to forgive him for his bad choices, they will because you raised them better than that. Pray for him, and move on. Find happiness and your kids will too.

What do you think of a man who......?

I think this is a man who should be history to you!

Shouldn't take much to find someone better!

What do you think of a man who......?

4 me he is a bastard,hepocrate husband who thinks kids r animal.Then what is he??? M thinking r u mad that u took him back n ur life again n again???how one can leave with this kind of sick man??Just kick n his bump when again he comes back.Tell him u dont need a husband/partner who have no responsibility n care 4 his partner n kids.Like this not only u but d kids r allso suffering.B bold !

What do you think of a man who......?

Not what I think of him what I think of you fot taking this all the time and excepting the abuse so long.

What do you think of a man who......?

I can't believe you put up with him for 14 years. It makes me sick just reading about him. I hope you find real love in your life because you sure didn't deserve this.

What do you think of a man who......?

First of all i think this man seems shallow and mean and not committed at all. He is a player and a user. If i were you i would let this guy go as obviously you are not enough for him and never will be. You will be much better off without him in your life. Move on with you and your kids life as you can do much better then this man. He is not worthy of you and of your love if you ask me. Dump him and start looking elsewhere for friends and for love. You can do much better then him! Let him go be with someone else and tell him you are done with him and his stupid and foolish ways and that you are not gonna put up with him and play his games anymore . You can do much better then him and he does not deserve a good woman like you anyways.

What do you think of a man who......?

It sounds like he is acting like a little boy. Don`t want to share my toys and now don`t want to share my women, can`t grow up and don`t want to. Well it time you let this USER go and make a life for yourself and your children. You deserve better than this and it`s time you made the move for yourself and your kids. You say he won`t marry you after 14 years and 2 children, that piece of paper is not going to make him grow up. GO FOR IT.

What do you think of a man who......?

he sounds self centered. very un caring of anyone around him. don't let it be his choice to leave and come back, stay away from this man. you wasted enough time and energy on him, and the relationship has and will go no where.

What do you think of a man who......?

like medea said ... cook him some grits so you can put him and everyone else out of their misery... he needs help and he need to just check him self in... they are waiting with his straight jacket...

What do you think of a man who......?

.dump this idiot before you loose your mind . but before you do tell him its because hes looking to old for you hahahahaha how dare he tell you your to heavy because of gaining weight he sounds self absorbed and treats you like crap loose hm search for some one who appreciates you you do not deserve to be used and abused. You may even loose weight or try to be more confident to look for new man . He is probably the reason you gained .good luck

What do you think of a man who......?

I think he is not worth the time it took you to type this.Sounds like a self-centred ego maniac to me and you are well rid of him.

How can any man say their children make them nervous......over some noise and maybe an animal in the house?Let his mother or some other woman have him and put up with this nonsense.

Gaining a little weight and not being blonde?Give me a break.He's just digging for excuses and using petty ones at that.You had auburn hair when he met you.

Sounds as though the other"woman"is tired of his B.S. too as he keeps going back and forth.Wouldn't it be interesting to have a chat with her?

Not want to see himself aging!!! Good grief.

Be happy you don't have to put up with him making decisions for you anymore. Most of all......be happy he's not in your life anymore and I feel sorry for your children.However........they'll figure it all out for themselves oneday.'Like I said:he's a self -centred ego maniac and one with huge problems.

Good luck to you and your children.God Bless.

What do you think of a man who......?

again and again women who do not get married wonder why a man can leave so easily, although many fools do break their marrige vows--it is much more than a peice of paper.

i doubt you could even sue him for desertion.

let him go, he doesn't want you, sounds like he is tired of being in a home life, returning home to mom and dad at his age?

if he ever tries to return, and you do want him; all i can say is get some standards, only after respectful dating and then a marraige ceremony, first. make him work for you, you came too easy like a free gift, all along, i feel bad for the kids,.

What do you think of a man who......?

You'll take him back after all this if he ask, both of you need a

mental therapist. Why do you keep living with a man like that. insults you hair , I guess insults your sex life. You better get help fast are you'll be a old granny still waiting for Paw Paw to come back.

What do you think of a man who......?

why are you stressing about this loser get your a** up and get yourself together take care of your kids and find another man because that one is a lost cause it might takesome time to get over but for your own sanity leave him alone he dont want to be there fine f*** him do you and be happy and when he wanna run back dont answer the door or phone he can stay out in the street with trash and if he's sleeping around aids is a big thing but its thing you have to live with that they aint got the cure for

What do you think of a man who......?

I don't think he knows what he wont's and you will never figure him out how can you when he cant even do it for himself . Why do you feel so low about yourself being that you keep taking this how can i say " no where man " back . Are you after him because he has great looks ?Do you think your above and average looking man? I believe your missing out on your and your kids lives thinking this guys going to change . Hes so vain cant you see that hes a lover of himself.

What do you think of a man who......?

dang he must be a perfectionist NOT sounds horrible wow sorry

What do you think of a man who......?

I have names for people like that and "man" isn't one of 'em.

What do you think of a man who......?

he hasn't grown up yet; find a real man

What do you think of a man who......?

I'd like to kick him in his whitened teeth and pull every hair out of his head. He sounds VERY immature. If the family life isn't what he wants, tell him to go to his dumb blonde and leave you alone. He is so conceited and arrogant sounding. Please, don't have your children around this "man". You can make it alone!!!

What do you think of a man who......?

Sorry, but this is what happens when immature girls move in with men, then have one baby, then have another baby - without a commitment. Should have asked for advice long before now.

Do the best you can now for your children. They are what is important. You made a huge mistake, and now have to make it up to them.

What do you think of a man who......?

he's just a loser and you know it, dump him and get happy

How do you know which pet to choose?

My husband and I are thinking about getting a puppy or young dog for our children, ages 8 %26amp; 4. I just don't know where to start. Aside from a few fish this will be the first animal any of us have ever had. I know I want a dog that has very short hair or doesn't shed a lot. He/she needs to be great w/ kids, obviously, and can be left alone for long periods of time. Our workday has us out of the house for about 10 hrs a day.

I also am interested in getting a dog from a shelter; as long as its an animal that fits well with our family.

How do you know which pet to choose?

As far as shedding goes it depends on the dog. Most dogs shed heavily when getting their winter coats or when shedding their winter coats. But for your situation a short-haired dog would probably best, and by the looks of it you don't want something like a newfoundlander or a golden retriever. As well, before you buy a dog you should probably contact someone you know who owns a dog or ask the pet store about it. Were you wanting a small dog or a medium-large dog? My personal favourites are medium-large dogs. Here is a list of dogs that are generally known for beeing good with children: Labrador Retriever, Golden Retriever, Standard Poodle, Irish Setter, Boston Terrier, Collies, Beagle, Bichon Frise, Pugs, Bassett Hound, Springer Spaniel, Burmese Mountain Dog, Standard Schnauzer, Newfoundland, Bulldog and Boxers. It is not a complete list, many dogs can be good with children and if you want a large dog - Great Danes are gentle giants but sometimes hard to come by. As for being out of the house, that can sometimes be problematic for dogs as they may get lonely or restless and need out to go to the washroom during the day, and you need to factor this in and see if your family is ready for a dog. Maybe in a few years when your family is stable for it? Whatever you do, don't rush into it without considering everything, getting a dog is a big deal. It is a living creature and you have to have responsibility for it. I would not exactly think of getting a young dog for your first dog because you need to have LOTS of time for a puppy to train it. If you're going to be gone for 10 hours a day, you can't leave a young dog or puppy who isn't potty-trained or has good ground manners alone with no contact - it's not natural. I'd suggest getting an older, well-trained dog from the shelter with experience with kids because if you ever get a puppy it shouldn't be with really young kids (puppies are energetic and like chewing things - nibbling on little kids fingers!). Once you've owned a dog it'll be easier with the second. Also make sure you have a big enough house and backyard for the dog. You need to think about all these things before you buy a dog.

Good luck

How do you know which pet to choose?

That's great. A cat is a good pet, but if you live so close to home you could probably get an older dog. Thanks for choosing me as best answer, good luck deciding! Report It

How do you know which pet to choose?

Cats don't bark or need to be walked

How do you know which pet to choose?

we got a six week old golden retriever and they are hyper you want a dog that is trained wont bite and isnt young!!! we call our golden retriever the goat because he eats everything!! weiner dogs are good around kids and can be kept in the cage for a long time, they also have short hair dont kno if you will find one at a shelter though

How do you know which pet to choose?

If you are going to be gone 10 hours a day.... maybe you should consider a cat. They are independant and bath themselves. Easier care too if you get one of those hairless looking Devon Rex. lol

How do you know which pet to choose?

Well i was going 2 suggest a poodle, but those are very hard 2 get from a shelter. u could try a chihuahua.

How do you know which pet to choose?

Stick with the fish, 10 hours gone each day is way too long for a puppy, or any adult dog. You can hold a pee for 10 hours ? You can't leave a dog penned outside all the time, and you can't leave a dog crated 10 hours a day. You are busy with life and kids and a dog isn't a good idea at all. A cat? Maybe, a dog, no.

How do you know which pet to choose?

I'm a kid and I have grown up with LOTS of different animals around. I think that a dog is a very good idea. :) You should go to the shelter with your kids. Find a probably small (they would probably be easiest to care for though I have never had one) that doesn't shed or barely does. Some shelters let you take them on walks or play with them. Try to do that and you will probably know when you have found your dog.

Since you work find a calm, older dog, defenitly not a puppy. And don't forget a fence or an electrical fence. A dog door is a good idea, too if you are gone a lot.

How do you know which pet to choose?

Um... Any dog with short hair is going to shed.

Labs(Weigh anywhere from 60-100+) shed a lot, so do toy fox terries(4-13lbs), jack russels(15-30) etc.

You can get a dog that doesn't shed, and keep it shaved down. You would have to do it quite often though.

Wire-coated dogs like a Cairn Terrier(Around 20)(Toto from the Wizard of Oz) don't seem to shed as much as short haired dogs, but they have longer hair.

Labs are wonderful with children, but they do shed A LOT. There's a breed called a Labradoodle(Lab and Poodle mix(50-100lbs)) that should shed little if any at all, but the hair is going to get long.

Another breed that does well with children are Boston Terriers, hyper little things, but soo good with families and other dogs. They do shed a bit, but not too much (As much as a Lab.)

If you really want a short haired dog, there's an AMAZING brush called a "FURminator" that reduces shedding by 90%. It is soooo good. I really would suggest getting one with a short haired dog. Here's a link. http://furminator.com/

If you happen to get a puppy, puppies adjust better to kids because they grow up used to them. Some dogs at shelters have not been exposed to kids, and can get kinda of nasty. Be careful about what you choose. : )

How do you know which pet to choose?

The best kind of family dog that are great with kids are Great Danes ( they are know as the gentle Giants) or a Labrador the short name for them is (LAB). The lab. will be a great dogs for the kids, if you can get a female. The female lab's will act as if the kids are her pups and if they fall or get sick they will be at their side.

How do you know which pet to choose?

If this is your first pet, and you're sure you want a dog, don't get a puppy. While they are cute, cuddly and adorable, your work schedule of 10 hr days is not going to adapt to a puppy's needs. What about an an older dog? Many elderly adults who must go into full time residential care are forced to give up their pets. This would be a perfect solution for you and for them. Many of these dogs are already house broken, settled into a routine, have some manners, and if you found one already accustomed to grandchildren, how cool would that be! Contact the residential care facilities in your area and let them know you are interested in fostering/adopting a resident's pet. You'll end up with a much more rewarding 'first time' dog owning experience.

How do you know which pet to choose?

A ten hour workday is a long time for a dog to hold it.. On rare occasion I am gone that long, but, I keep my dogs babygated in one room and sure wouldn't fault them for having an accident.. If ten hours a day will always be the routine, you will want to have a dog walker come by about midway though.. If you have a neighbor with dogs that's home while you're at work, that might be a good way to go about it.. They don't need a long walk during the day, but, you sure don't want them holding it that long or it could end up with a bladder infection..

Either way, you'll want to get an adult dog, but, I would suggest going through a rescue rather then a shelter.. Rescues typically rescue dogs from shelters and put them into foster homes.. so, a lot of the time you can get a dog that's already part of the way housebroken and often you can find one that's been fostered with kids already.. You can find a group on Petfinder by searching by zipcode.. DO make sure you read the groups policies as some prefer not to work with families with small children.. There are plenty of groups though that are willing to work with a family that has done their research and is willing to learn...

Here's some good links..

Here's a pretty decent guide to choosing a rescue

http://www.canismajor.com/dog/srcresc.ht...

Crate Training

http://www.barkbytes.com/training/crate....

Dog food info- extensive website with several pages that should be required reading

http://www.dogfoodproject.com/index.php?...

Another thing you will want to do is do a search on Petfinder.com to get an idea of what breeds are commonly available in your area.. From there, go ahead and research how those breeds characteristics tend to be.. There's no point in looking at profiles and determining that the Havanese is the dog for you if there aren't any available at rescues in your immediate area.. You can search just by species and size to see what breeds are available in that size range..

You're are going to want to find a rescue that sounds willing to spend the extra time you will probably need both in selecting a dog and in followup learning.

How do you know which pet to choose?

10 hours is entirely too long for a dog. Occasionally it would be fine if you had someone to let a dog out to do its business. As much as I dont like cats, thats what I would go with if you really want a pet. Birds are cool too.....they can be taught to talk.

How do you know which pet to choose?

A dog is NOT for you, especially a puppy. No way should any dog be left alone for 10 hrs at a time. I hope u think thru about what is involved in housebreaking a puppy or taking a dog outdoors to relieve itself 3 or 4 times a day. I know of what I say, I`ve had dogs for 30 yrs of my life. If u must have a pet, a cat should be ur choice, they need only a litter pan, food and water and don`t need walked or trained. If u`ve never had a pet, get a book on both cat and dog care and read what is required of a responsible pet owner. Except for a cat, there is much more involved than u may think. Don`t make a mistake u may later regret. There is nothing better than having a great dog and companion. To many mistakes now live in animal shelters thru no fault of their own.

How do you know which pet to choose?

you should not get a puppy because by the time they get 12 they will hate it

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do

He is very wealthy and well respected in the community, I am a stay at home mom, and dont have any friends as people keep on running to him about stories of me bad mouthing him. I can't deal with his ex or his daughter, neither can he deal with mine. He has a very aggresive streak, which scares me, but for the first time he hurt me, hit my head against the wall, gabbed me by my neck, pulled my hair out, I hit him back, all this happened infront of our kids that we had together (ages 2 and 4) He demands me to get out his house, if I dont he will disconnect the electicity, show the world I cant look after my children, he takes away the car. But when he calms down he cries, says what a bad man he is, bad father, and I forgave him every time.

Now 2 weeks after the abuse, it hit me that THIS is what I never wanted from a relationship, this is not me. But I can not speak to him he will get angry again and ......knows what he would do, should I go for councelling?

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Listen, I know that everyone is going to tell you to leave and their right you need to. But not just for yourself but for your children. I grew up in an environment just like yours until I was 16. My mother was in an abusive relationship with my two little brother's father. All I ever remember from my childhood is my mother being beat all of the time and the cops constantly being called. Eventually he started to beat me as well for no reason just because he was upset. He would call my mother from jail and cry to her telling her that he has a problem and that he needs help. So she would drop the charges and then he would come home and life would be great for a week and then all of the sudden he would flip out again. Finally when I was 16 I ran away to my grandmother's house she called the cops and reported the abuse. As always my mother dropped the charges, however I didn't. But the son of a ***** only got 2 years. But in the end the only reason my mother had gotten away from him was because of me, during the two years she started over and got married and he is gone. I will never forgive my mother for the miserable childhood she let me have, she could have left at any time, but didn't want to be alone. If you truly love yourself and your children you will leave, the beatings will never stop, they will only get worse until he one day goes too far and then your children will be orphans. Counseling won't do anything, abusers never stop, you need to come to terms with that.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

become ex wife number 2

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

take those kids and go to a shelter! they can help you!

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Call the police.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Start putting away money to get a good lawyer.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

1, go see a doctor and with that medical report go make a police report .

2. walk away and find a safe house and think of what you want to do next.

3. No man should ever hurt his woman !!!

Just dump him !

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Wealth is irrelevant.

Friends are necessary.

His 'example' to the kids about how a husband supposedly treats a wife is wholly unacceptable.

You need to turn him in, and you need to get out - for your own safety and the safety of everyone else around him. If someday he's able to manage his emotions, then maybe you two can work something out. but for now - you need to get out.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

What should you do? Grab the kids and go. Get a lawyer, get a divorce. This man has a history of violence, and when he is cornered with being exposed he threatens to cut of the electricity (to punish his kids?) This guy is the ultimate loser, and he uses his status in the community to get what he wants. Don't let him walk all over you. Yes, get counselling - AFTER the divorce.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

You should move out of the house, go to a battered women's shelter with the children. Today. Yes you need counseling. CPS can take the kids because you know he is abusive and you are still there. They are in danger and so are you. RUN!!!!

I had friends, he was abusive, he shot her in the face and killed her, then killed himself............... Don't let that happen to you!!! Move today, don't let another minute pass. Find the nearest shelter.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Forget the counseling. I understand that you probably love him, but if he is hitting you, and you think he hit his ex-wife... the situation WON'T change. He will continue to hit you, and maybe even your children. Right now you need to think about your safety and that of your kids.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Trust me i grew up in this kind of environement and it's not good. they never stop do you know how many times I watched my dad beat on my mom and us and then turn around and cry and say how sorry he was and all this other stuff then go right back and do it again. It's not healthy for you children at all I suggest you stash some money and find away out even if you have to go to a women and childrens shelter. Also if you do decide to stick around through all of this just remember that you are teaching your kids not sure what they are boy/girls so i'll do both but your teaching your daughters that it's okay for a man to beat on her as long as he says he is sorry and she will settle for that in life and if it is a boy you are teaching him that it is fine for him to beat on women because as long as he says he sorry they will forgive him in the end he will be in the same situation an abusive relationship my advice is to get out now before it is too late. Luckily my mother left my dad and they also divorced although it took 27 years but she has been seperated from him for 10 he always told her she would never make it without him and she has a great job and has made it this far. Good Luck to you in all your decisions. Just remember you should do what is best for your children.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

ARE YOU INSANE ?

THE SIGNS ARE ALL THERE...EX WIFE 1 LEFT HIM..WHY SHOULDN'T YOU..

no one needs to be disrespected and abused like that, especially in front of your own children..

YOU FORGIVING HIM EVERY TIME MAKES YOU WANT PEOPLE CALL " A DOORMAT"..and trust me thats the last thing you want to be now...

Pack up the kids, and leave...for your health, your safety and your children..do it for the kids please..you really need to get out..

NO Counceling no talking...no working things things out no compromise.....LEAVE... or you could end up dead and might not be so lucky 2nd time around..

The kids need a mom that has a back bone...and someone who is strong for them...

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Did you every see the movie "The burning Bed" Don't end up in jail over this pig get out before someone get's killed.. Btw if i was on the jury i would never convict you if you did.. A man hands should never be put on a woman unless it's to show affection or during sex.. Why are men such pigs

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Your kids deserve better than to see their mom get beat on and you deserve better too. Get out now, before he starts abusing the children too. I was in an abusive relationship and he was always sorry, and cried and said he would never do it again. He always did. Forget counseling, leave him.

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Listen to your head and your heart...This situation is NOT right and it is not healthy for you or your two kids.

This man is sick...He has SEVERE issues he has to deal with; and he knows that hitting you is not right...!

NO ONE has the right to hit or abuse another person.

Get out now and tell your family about this immediately.

You need others to help you pack. Take your children somewhere else and get a lawyer's opinion on what to do and how to do it....So now you see why he has an ex-wife! She probably went through the same hell he's putting you through now!!!

Abusive and violent men DO NOT CHANGE- and if he has already hurt you, he will do it again if you are still there. He may cry and regret his actions later,,,but do you REALLY want to suffer your whole life?

And do you want your kids to SEE and HEAR what he does to you? Children learn by example, and in the future they may grow up to do the same thing to others because they saw it in their home and they'll think this is normal in a marriage- and it is NOT....!

He is an adult and he should be mature and look for therapy to help him overcome his issues. You cannot force him to go- he HAS to WANT to change himself. So I'd say get out now, look for family and friends' support, and leave him. Perhaps if you do this he will realize he HAS a big problem and will do something about it...

Remember: You need to love and respect yourself first, in order for others to love and respect you, too...

Good luck and take care of yourself and your kids ...!

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Under "no circumstances" accept abuse. If you love him very much, then, find counseling to help him. But DO NOT CONTINUE to be abused. Be hard and STOP it.....in one way or the other. If you need to go away, do so. If you need to get legal help, do so. There are 800 numbers you can call to report abuse. Good luck..

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

Take your children and go to a women's shelter and do it quietly and quickly. If he finds out what you are planning to do he will become violent again.

You may need counseling after you get away from him, but not now. Now you need to get out of that house before he seriously hurts you.

He will never change. The best chance of stopping an abuser like him is intensive psychotherapy and possibly medication and at best that is only somewhat successful. Most abusers will not even admit that they are abusers. He might apologize after an episode, but he will not admit to being abusive.

You said that this is not the life for you and you are right. Get away before it is too late.

Take care,

Troy

Married 5 yrs, there were stories that he abused his previous wife. Now I have been abused. What do I do?

If you speak to an advocate at your local domestic violence shelter, they can give you different options that can help you. That can also include counseling and possible legal help. You really need to focus on the well being of your children. Witnessing this type of abuse can be detrimental to their well being. Some states (I don't know which do and which don't) consider it cruelty to children for one parent to be abused by another parent in the children's presence. Keep in mind that the abuse is more than likely going to get worse not better. Your local shelter will also know that domestic violence victims comes in all different economic backgrounds and alot of the time the worse abusers are well respected in the community. They generally are very good manipulators. Get help! You don't deserve to be someone elses punching bag.

Who sings this and what is it called?

He called her on the phone,

from a lonely,

cold hotel room,

just to hear her say I love you one more time.

And when he heard the sound of the kids laughing in the background,

he had to wipe a tear from his eye.

A little voice came on the phone, said daddy when you coming home?

He said the first thing that came to his mind.

I'm already there,

take a look around,

I'm the sunshine in your hair.

I'm the shadow on the ground.

I'm your imaginary friend,

and I'll be there till the end.

Oh, I'm all ready there.

She got back on the phone,

said I really miss you darling,

don't worry about the kids,

they"ll be alright.

Wish I was in your arms,

lying right there beside you.

But I know I'll be in your dreams tonight.

And I'll gently kiss your lips,

touch ya with my finger tips.

So turn out the lights and then close your eyes.

I'm already there,

don't make a sound.

I'm the whisper in the wind.

I'm the moonlight shining down.

Cause when you feel the love that we share,

Who sings this and what is it called?

Lonestar - I閳ユ獡 Already There

Who sings this and what is it called?

lonestar. - im already there. Great song

Who sings this and what is it called?

Lonestar - I'm Already There

Who sings this and what is it called?

its from lonestar.

I forgot what its called.

Who sings this and what is it called?

I'm Already There...Lonestar (2001)

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

I live a few miles from my parents. I am just finishing graduate school and I also have 2 small children. My husband work full time and we never get help. We cannot afford a babysitter. My mother owns a pre-school and my son goes a couple of mornings a week (only for 2 1/2 hours). That is all the "help" she gives. She pops her head in the car to say a quick hello to her granddaughter and then tells stories about my kids to the rest of the family to make it seem as if she is with them all the time. My mother has made excuse after excuse (hair, nail appt, plan with friends...etc) when I have asked her for help. My husband and I have not been alone on a date in 2 years. My resentment towards my mother is growing each day. She never offers to help. Even when both kids were born we were on our own. No help! No offerings of any kind! So when mother's day and father's day come along they expect me to bring my family over to their house to "celebrate". We did not go and they give me attitude.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

I think that it is really mean of parents not to help out now and again. Of course parents don't want to end up bringing up their grandchildren, as they have done their bit, but it wouldn't hurt to help out now and then. My mother goes on at me to study and further my career but there is no suggestion of coming to give me a break now and then. I asked my mum to come on a monday evening to cook meal of the kids and so that we could all spend some time together. But she came over and lectured the kids on helping out, cooked a crap dinner and then bent my ear about this and that. I was exhausted for the rest of the evening. Dad couldn't wait to get out of the door quick enough. Then they wonder why their grandchildren don't want to spend time with them. I think you should be honest with your mum and say you and your husband would like to spend an evening togther. If she makes an excuse then put her on the spot and ask her why she always "ducks out". I think in circumstances such as this you need to let her know why you are cheesed off. But make it clear you are not expecting to impose on her too often. If you don't get anywhere, do you have a friend who could babysit for you in return for you baby sitting for her, so that no money is exchanged? I am sure if you asked your closest friends, they would be only too glad to offer if it means you have a break with your husband. Good luck.X

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

you have a good back bone! move farther away from her she almost doesn't exsist anyway....dont have no more kids they r not cheap...

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

You are 36 years old. You shouldn't need your mothers help with your kids. She obviously doesn't want to baby sit them for you. So don't ask her to. She must be mad when you do ask to and so she talks to other family members about you behind your back. Just leave her alone and don't bother trying to talk to her. She'll eventually realize that it's not worth it and try to help you on her own.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

I hate to say it but it is not your mothers responsibility to take care of the little ones. My mother and step-mother warned me years ago that they already raised us children and not to ask to babysit. So we don't. I think it is more than there right and fair that they don't want to babysit. They have a right to enjoy there old age time without kids. Get a babysitter. I have not had any help and it is just fine. 2 1/2 hours is great. I feel you are asking to much. You should be happy you are even getting some time. These children are your responsibly not your parents. I hope I don't sound harsh. I don't mean to be.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

You're mother does enough as it is running a busy pre-school.

They are not obligated to babysit for you. You chose to have children and they are you're responsibility.

You're hateful attitude will come back at you one day when you stand over their grave and it is too late to make things right.

Grow up! It is time for you to.

They raised you, they earned there time they have now to do as they chose to, not the way you see they need to utilize it.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

well i tottaly understand your frustration BUT your kids are your responsibilities and even though it would be considerate for your mother to help you she is not and that is her decision. she is not obligated to take care of your kids.... so you may not be happy with her decision but in the end it is her decision.

as far as mothers day that is absolutely YOUR decision :)

and maybe she doesn't deserve to have you over if that is your opinion so be it. just dont expect her to do things she realy doesn't have to do.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

You are 36, these are YOUR children, you really have no right to be mad at your mom. Her job was to raise you, and she has. She is not in any way obligated to watch your children. This is HER time to relax.

You're almost done with grad school and should be able to find a high paying job which will help your financial situation - for a babysitter. Life is rough, and the things we want are only worth having if we work for them. What about friends? Couldn't they help you with babysitting every once in awhile?

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

I don't blame you in the slightest for your attitude as HER attitude stinks. I can't imagine a grandparent not wanting to dote over their grandkids or wherever possible helping out a son or daughter. Its not like you are asking for a major upheaval in her life and babysitting for her grandkids shouldn't even be a chore...more like a blessing. How can a woman who thinks like this run a pre-school???

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

I would have handled it just like you did. I wouldn't have stopped over there to celebrate with them. You have your own family and maybe had plans of your own. I would start looking for another babysitter or preschool. Maybe you need some distance between her. It's YOUR family that you have to worry about now and she needs to understand that. You also have to understand too that she's around kids all day and probably needs some peace and quiet after work hours. But I still think she's not being a very good grandma. Best of luck.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

its time you and your mother had a long talk. you need to find out why she is acting like this. maybe she is just tired from the pre school and wants a break from children when she is off.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

Why do you feel as if it is your mothers responsibility to help you with your children? You should be happy and appreciative that you even have a mother who helps you out as much as she does. How much money do you save by just having her watch them a couple hours in the morning a few days a week? Your mom runs a preschool... do you think that in her freetime at night or on the weekends that she wants to babysit kids, again! That's what she does for a living, she needs to get away from it on the nights and weekends. If you were a massage therapist, and you did it 40+ hours a week, when you got home at night or on the weekends, would you want to give your husband, family and friends a massage? I don't think so. Give your mom a break... take your own responsibility for your children, find a teenager in the area who can watch them so you can go out...

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

Although I understand your expectations your mother is in no way obligated to meet them. She has raised her children and is now taking time for herself when she is not taking care of other children to make a living. I know most people think that their parents should help them in every way possible, but frankly, at your age, I think that time is over. Your marriage is established and you and your husband are working toward your goals. There will come a day when you will have more time and money to do the things you want to do. Also, what about your husband's family? I don't understand why you are mad at your mom but not your dad or his parents? Perhaps there is another issue here that has nothing to do with watching your kids.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

You are the one who had the children so you should raise them. I think you are being selfish and childish.Where is it written that when you are a grandparent then you are required to babysit all the time? Yes, I do have children and I have never had someone baby sit my children ever! They are my kids and my responsibility to raise them.

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

I can understand my mil is alot like this I sat her down and talked to her and I told my family what she was really like with my child so she finlly came around good luck

I am 36 years old...how would you react to your parents???

While it would be nice for her to help, she is not obligated to. Grandparents are not there just for babysitting.

With your Mom running a preschool she is probably exhausted from being around small children all day. Just as you feel you need a break from your children, she most likely enjoys the time of day when all the kids are gone. Plus, these are YOUR children.

If you really can not afford a babysitter than maybe try to make a deal with another family at the daycare that your child knows. Talk to another family and make a deal where one friday you will watch their kiddos for a date night and then next week they can take your kids. Having another family to trade babysitting with may be a good deal and it is free.

I understand it is frustrating having two small children and almost no time for yourself. However, your mom already raised her children and is no longer obligated to babysit. If she wants to enjoy her time alone then this is the time to do it.

Brad Pitt...?

Leaves his wife for a younger, sluttier type. Inherits kids, adopts more. Has one of his own, gives it stupid name. Dyes hair peroxide blond. Buys a motorcycle and takes up moto cross. Has tattoo done.

Is this the mother of all mid life crises or what???

Brad Pitt...?

You're so right!

It's nothing else than a mid life crisis. In a few years time he will want to go back to Jen, regret his daughter has such a stupid name, regret doing this tatoo (before he wouldn never do it, I guess). Must be Angelina's influence.

Brad Pitt...?

Hey I did all those things! Is that what's happening to me?

Brad Pitt...?

never really thought about it that way! Great question though LOL and most probably true yehh

Brad Pitt...?

hahaha haven't thought about it like that before but I think you could be onto something!

Brad Pitt...?

envy is an admission of inferiority

Brad Pitt...?

No, it sounds like someone who knows how to care, be responsible, and have fun...........

Brad Pitt...?

Um ya no ****...and not to mention how many ****** kids do they plan on adopting ???????? its so ****** stupid i dont care how much money you got ....there is no way you can give that many kids the love and attention they all need..SORRY NOPE dont believe it...

Brad Pitt...?

i think so and poor jen

Brad Pitt...?

Yes, but you would though wouldn't you, I mean if you had to pick a man to do it with, life or death situation, you would pick Bradd Pitt. Or Johnny Depp, certainly not you wife's dad though, that's just plain wrong.

Brad Pitt...?

but he is minted... he can do what the hell he wants!

Brad Pitt...?

He is definitely still in the closet, along with George Clooney. They are partners don't ya know. Biggest untold truth.

Brad Pitt...?

I think he閳ユ獨 閳ユ笀ay閳?and confused about it. Give him a break, he閳ユ獨 just trying to figure out a way to break the news to every girl who is in love with him.

Brad Pitt...?

He's an idiot.

Brad Pitt...?

Who cares. Did he even finish high school?

Brad Pitt...?

Yeh, I think they need to chill out with the 'pick a child from every poor country' thing tho. It's not a competition!

Brad Pitt...?

No

Brad Pitt...?

awww come i do not get what u are trying to imply though he might be what u say he is though but i agreee with dr peas but hes a good guy though i mean he loves kids and as for that other ugly jen she deserved it and she needs a life

Brad Pitt...?

You are not making sense. Angelina Jolie is not what you call her to be.

Brad Pitt...?

ya for sure. brad pitt disgusts me now. i cannot stand him.

Brad Pitt...?

I know what you mean. Give it a few more years and he'll probably end up dating one of his adopted daughters like Woody Allen did.

Brad Pitt...?

No, you forgot Marla

Brad Pitt...?

definately

Brad Pitt...?

I'm going to kick tyler durden's @ss fightclub style!

Brad Pitt...?

I don't understand how any of those things relate to a mid-life crisis. Why do people think that all celebrities have to be one specific way? He is a human being with his own mind and interests and he can do whatever he wants. How is Angelina Jolie a sl ut exactly? I have never heard of her being with multiple men at one time. What is wrong with adopting children who need a home? I don't think Shiloh is a stupid name. What would you prefer? Something boring and cliche like Stephanie or Jennifer? Seems like people will find any excuse to hate when someone seems to be enjoying their life.

Brad Pitt...?

he should never have left jen

Brad Pitt...?

Actually...I think you could be right. After all he was pressuring Jen to have children. He said himself he was getting older and wanted to start a family. Jen said no not now, enter...mid-life crisis. Find a woman who has children, no wasted time there, make another within a year, crisis solved. I can't say much about the other stuff as he is only 43 and that's still young to me. If he were in his 50's or 60's I would question his intentions. Though I do think they are just wrong for adopting more children so quickly. They have barely had time to bond with the ones they have. I am hearing that Brad is getting stuck with a lot of babysitting duty. But he did after all make the fuss about having a family, now he has one.

Brad Pitt...?

I think the real Brad Pitt is coming out!

Brad Pitt...?

You can say that again! He should have stayed with Jennifer and adopted a child called 'Steve' or 'Lucy' ... he sure has rebelled at such an old age! I think the dominatrix sessions are starting to show!